How To Be A Good Lover

The reason we all have sex is because it feels good; if it didn’t we wouldn’t do it. It takes two to have sex otherwise you are just masturbating and if so no need to even read this unless you plan at some point to introduce a partner to your activities.

Since there are two people involved you are no longer the only one seeking satisfaction. To be a good lover you must find out what it is that makes the other person feel good. It’s as simple as that. First you need a partner.


Just because they are the same sex doesn’t mean they want or like the same things you like.

No two people are alike regardless of gender. Take two women and they will both have completely different things that turn them on. One might enjoy her breasts fondled while the other doesn’t get any enjoyment from it.

The same goes for men. Some are turned on by nipple play while others have very little sensation in that area.


Don’t get ideas from porn.

There is nothing wrong with pornographic books or videos for the most part but unfortunately many get their ideas from watching them thinking that is normal love making.

For instance the feces fetish; I have no idea where that nonsense got started but I assure you most women, regardless of race, are not into it nor should they be. You can get all kinds of nasty diseases no matter how clean your hygiene is. It’s a bad idea. It’s called waste for a reason.

If you are looking for ideas, moves and positions, read books (not porn) or simply talk to your partner.


Communication

The best way to be a good lover is by talking to your lover and finding out what works. Unfortunately not all women or men are good at discussing such things. If your guy or girl is too shy to tell you what they want try texting, email, writing it down or if that doesn’t work just try listening to their feedback or pay attention to body language. Usually heavy breathing and moans means you are doing it right although it could also mean you are on their hair so it can be tricky if you have one that doesn’t give you a clue.

Part of being a good lover is telling your sweetheart what you like. If you don’t tell them, how will they know? They can’t read your mind.


Be compassionate

The worst lovers are selfish people. If you get into the moment and only think about your own desires and what you want, you won’t be a good lover. Making love is a give and take activity. Not all sessions will be evenly split but make sure that part of the time you are giving as well as taking. If you expect her to give you oral sex then you should be willing to perform cunnilingus as well.

Some women don’t like fellatio because of gagging and the taste of semen. Ask him if you can go only part way down and occasionally lick and stroke around the base instead of taking the whole penis in your mouth. If you don’t like the taste of his ejaculation and it’s not a big deal to him maybe he can pull out before he orgasms. Don’t forget his testicles. For most men some oral sex is better than none and they are willing to work with you on it but at least try.


It’s not about size

Contrary to what you read online and hear from friends most men don’t care if a woman has large breasts and most women aren’t concerned with the size of a guy’s penis.

We make love with more than just our endowments.

You can be a great lover no matter your size; it doesn’t matter.


Be adventurous

Don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable with or is life threatening but be willing to try new things. You never know you might even find you enjoy it.


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