I’ve seen questions in forums like “What do Korean men find attractive” or “Do Irish men find black women appealing.”
Men are all different. For the most part they are going to go for their own race of females or at least women that are similar in looks to what they see at home but there are some guys who like something a bit different.
If a man is raised in America, land of variety, they are exposed to many more types of women so therefore their range of taste will be larger than it would be if they grew up in another country.
Even so there are men who are not so caught up on looks. Take for instance wartime when men have gone to another country and during that time falls in love with a girl who looks nothing like dear old mom.
I know a man who is mostly Irish. He grew up here in Oklahoma in a small town but when he graduated from college he joined the Peace Corp and fell in love with the darkest girl you could imagine in Africa. They have been married for many years and had a houseful of daughters.
There are guys who come to America for education and leave not only with knowledge but also a wife.
My point is; you can’t ask what do men of a certain race find attractive. All men are different and being from a particular country isn’t going to make him any different than other men. They have a personal idea of what the perfect woman is and no two agree.
What do men find sexy? It has been my experience that men prefer sex appeal to beauty. In fact if a woman is too attractive it can work against her. I know several very pretty blond women who lived their lives alone and mostly without dates. A mildly pretty girl has an advantage over Barbie because a woman that is overly gorgeous intimidates most men.
There is nothing a man finds sexier than a woman that finds him handsome, loves him and is attentive to his needs. You can go overboard, so be careful. A guy doesn’t want to feel smothered and he needs space once in a while. You don’t have to be his personal maid or sex slave.
You will never know if a particular man is interested in you unless you talk to him, get to know him and see what happens.
You can’t make a man love you or be attracted to you so if you have let him know you are interested in him and he seems put off by it, leave him be. Who wants a man who doesn’t want them? No one with any self esteem. There are millions of other available men out there.
Ashlee Simpson- Boyfriend:
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Valentine Gifts, Naughty Energy Drinks and Monkey Sex
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Thursday, January 20, 2011
Foreplay
My apologies for the double post the other day. As we say down here in the south, I've had too many irons in the fire.
I think many people are confused as to what foreplay is. Believe it or not there are men who think taking a woman out to dinner and paying is foreplay. Really? I’m not sure how they figure that because personally eating food doesn’t turn me on.
It doesn’t take much for me and I’m constantly aroused but many women need a bit more coaxing to get them moist.
What is foreplay? It is anything that arouses sexual interest and is a singular act. I hesitate to say it only benefits one of the two partners because there are some of us who get equally stimulated by performing acts on their mate when their own genitals aren’t engaged. Those people are true gems to find.
Foreplay is anything that makes the other person sexually aroused, if she is female it will make her vagina lubricate, if he is male he will get an erection. This can be any number of things depending on the individual and what turns them on. Here is where communication comes in. It helps to ask what they want or like but many people are shy about such things, whether asking or telling so I advice you to just do the basics and look for the signs that what you are doing is working.
There are entire volumes on each act so if you want to educate yourself on how to do any particular one buy a book. If you are too shy to go to the bookstore, order online. The Internet has made it very easy for introvert people to purchase any manner of information without anyone knowing. The great thing is that they now have reviews so you can read what other people thought about them before you get out your credit card.
If you enjoy giving it will show and your partner will enjoy it more. There’s nothing sexier than a happy participant.
Foreplay is more important for women than men. Men can be hard and ready in a matter of seconds (in most cases); women often need more coaxing to become lubricated. Unless a man can last quite long during intercourse and a woman can orgasm during penetration she will need a bit more fun before hand.
Oral sex:
I don’t put much stock in statistics as a rule due to the fact they can be swayed in any direction people want them to go depending on the demographics and selected participants. However, when we consistently see numbers that are in agreement we might at least take notice and do self-examinations. Not that kind of self-examination, I mean the internal one where we look to see if we have room for improvement and if so what can be done.
According to Men’s Health, fifty percent of women perform oral sex on men but only 40 percent of men reciprocate.
Some men have this attitude if it doesn’t benefit them they aren’t interested. Well guess what? It does benefit you only not the way you think. If you are willing to go downtown on her she will be much more excited about the idea of kissing your Willy.
Most people are turned on by receiving oral sex. The only ones who are not are either very religious and taught it is a carnal sin or they had a bad experience.
Women who do not like cunnilingus typically think it is gross. They can’t imagine you wanting to do it because of the mess and she’s thinking about it too much to relax and enjoy herself. Some also don’t want you to kiss them afterward because they don’t like the taste and/or mess. A few glasses of wine will usually loosen her up and after she finds out how enjoyable it is she gets past the negative thoughts about it.
Men who don’t like cunnilingus have some of the same complaints the above women have and there isn’t a whole lot you can do about that one other than for him to work on other techniques. Oddly enough, women are more patient about this than men are about fellatio. Go figure.
Men don’t usually have hang ups about fellatio unless they are religious and even most of those are closet lovers of lipstick on the dipstick and just don’t advertise the fact they love getting head and if they are going to hell for it they will enjoy the ride.
Women who don’t like going down on a guy have usually had a bad experience. The guy forced her to deep throat and she gagged, she doesn’t like the taste of semen or she can’t get past the idea you pee with that thing. Compromise on some of these things; go easy, don’t push and talk it out. If you want fellatio badly enough and don’t want to find another woman you’ll figure it out. Don’t expect her to take the whole sausage or pull out before you shoot. It’s as simple as that. Oh and don't forget hygiene guys. I've heard some women were put off by a crusty penis or jock smell.
Fingering and hand jobs:
Guys, make sure you don’t have any hangnails or rough places on your fingers or she will come off the bed and not in a good way. You know how sensitive your testicles are; the inner folds of the vagina are just as touchy if not more so. Watch and listen to her reaction, you’ll figure out what works and what doesn’t. If she is admiring her manicure and waiting for you to move to the next level, you are doing it wrong. Don’t forget her clitoris. Think of the little man in the boat as a tiny penis. That is the on button. Just go easy or it will become raw and then the party is over.
There’s also the “G” spot. I’ve read all kinds of weird things about this and can’t figure out why it’s so hard to find. Take your finger (you only need one) and put it in the vagina in a “come here” motion pointing upward. You should feel something soft and spongy right behind the pelvic bone. Don’t expect a huge reaction. Most women just get wetter when this is stroked. If however, you couple that with clitoral stimulation, either with another finger or your tongue, she will enjoy it.
Hand jobs aren’t that complicated. You are just stroking a guy up and down with your hand around his penis. Again, watch and listen to see if you are doing it right. If he can still pay attention to a ball game you are doing it wrong. Don’t forget his testicles and be gentle. You want to tickle them and if you have fingernails run them gently over the sack in easy strokes while your other hand rubs up and down. There’s also that spot between his balls and rectum you can massage.
Nipples:
Men and women alike find this an erogenous zone. You can use your fingers to roll them, flick them or stroke across. Some people don’t get aroused at all; so don’t be too disappointed if you don’t get a reaction. A man who enjoys getting his nipples sucked isn’t gay. We all start out the same in the womb and later some grow penises. We all have the same nerve endings to our nipples and some are more sensitive than others.
Incidentally, I have heard that women who have had breast implants sometimes lose sensation in their nipples due to nerve damage.
There are many more things you can do but these are the basics. If you aren’t having much luck with your current techniques read up on other things you can do, introduce vibrators or other toys. Don’t feel inadequate if she isn’t responding to your hands or mouth but does to a toy. Some women are harder to arouse than others and it’s not your fault. There are also the rare women who aren’t aroused by anything, poor souls.
I think many people are confused as to what foreplay is. Believe it or not there are men who think taking a woman out to dinner and paying is foreplay. Really? I’m not sure how they figure that because personally eating food doesn’t turn me on.
It doesn’t take much for me and I’m constantly aroused but many women need a bit more coaxing to get them moist.
What is foreplay? It is anything that arouses sexual interest and is a singular act. I hesitate to say it only benefits one of the two partners because there are some of us who get equally stimulated by performing acts on their mate when their own genitals aren’t engaged. Those people are true gems to find.
Foreplay is anything that makes the other person sexually aroused, if she is female it will make her vagina lubricate, if he is male he will get an erection. This can be any number of things depending on the individual and what turns them on. Here is where communication comes in. It helps to ask what they want or like but many people are shy about such things, whether asking or telling so I advice you to just do the basics and look for the signs that what you are doing is working.
There are entire volumes on each act so if you want to educate yourself on how to do any particular one buy a book. If you are too shy to go to the bookstore, order online. The Internet has made it very easy for introvert people to purchase any manner of information without anyone knowing. The great thing is that they now have reviews so you can read what other people thought about them before you get out your credit card.
If you enjoy giving it will show and your partner will enjoy it more. There’s nothing sexier than a happy participant.
Foreplay is more important for women than men. Men can be hard and ready in a matter of seconds (in most cases); women often need more coaxing to become lubricated. Unless a man can last quite long during intercourse and a woman can orgasm during penetration she will need a bit more fun before hand.
Oral sex:
I don’t put much stock in statistics as a rule due to the fact they can be swayed in any direction people want them to go depending on the demographics and selected participants. However, when we consistently see numbers that are in agreement we might at least take notice and do self-examinations. Not that kind of self-examination, I mean the internal one where we look to see if we have room for improvement and if so what can be done.
According to Men’s Health, fifty percent of women perform oral sex on men but only 40 percent of men reciprocate.
Some men have this attitude if it doesn’t benefit them they aren’t interested. Well guess what? It does benefit you only not the way you think. If you are willing to go downtown on her she will be much more excited about the idea of kissing your Willy.
Most people are turned on by receiving oral sex. The only ones who are not are either very religious and taught it is a carnal sin or they had a bad experience.
Women who do not like cunnilingus typically think it is gross. They can’t imagine you wanting to do it because of the mess and she’s thinking about it too much to relax and enjoy herself. Some also don’t want you to kiss them afterward because they don’t like the taste and/or mess. A few glasses of wine will usually loosen her up and after she finds out how enjoyable it is she gets past the negative thoughts about it.
Men who don’t like cunnilingus have some of the same complaints the above women have and there isn’t a whole lot you can do about that one other than for him to work on other techniques. Oddly enough, women are more patient about this than men are about fellatio. Go figure.
Men don’t usually have hang ups about fellatio unless they are religious and even most of those are closet lovers of lipstick on the dipstick and just don’t advertise the fact they love getting head and if they are going to hell for it they will enjoy the ride.
Women who don’t like going down on a guy have usually had a bad experience. The guy forced her to deep throat and she gagged, she doesn’t like the taste of semen or she can’t get past the idea you pee with that thing. Compromise on some of these things; go easy, don’t push and talk it out. If you want fellatio badly enough and don’t want to find another woman you’ll figure it out. Don’t expect her to take the whole sausage or pull out before you shoot. It’s as simple as that. Oh and don't forget hygiene guys. I've heard some women were put off by a crusty penis or jock smell.
Fingering and hand jobs:
Guys, make sure you don’t have any hangnails or rough places on your fingers or she will come off the bed and not in a good way. You know how sensitive your testicles are; the inner folds of the vagina are just as touchy if not more so. Watch and listen to her reaction, you’ll figure out what works and what doesn’t. If she is admiring her manicure and waiting for you to move to the next level, you are doing it wrong. Don’t forget her clitoris. Think of the little man in the boat as a tiny penis. That is the on button. Just go easy or it will become raw and then the party is over.
There’s also the “G” spot. I’ve read all kinds of weird things about this and can’t figure out why it’s so hard to find. Take your finger (you only need one) and put it in the vagina in a “come here” motion pointing upward. You should feel something soft and spongy right behind the pelvic bone. Don’t expect a huge reaction. Most women just get wetter when this is stroked. If however, you couple that with clitoral stimulation, either with another finger or your tongue, she will enjoy it.
Hand jobs aren’t that complicated. You are just stroking a guy up and down with your hand around his penis. Again, watch and listen to see if you are doing it right. If he can still pay attention to a ball game you are doing it wrong. Don’t forget his testicles and be gentle. You want to tickle them and if you have fingernails run them gently over the sack in easy strokes while your other hand rubs up and down. There’s also that spot between his balls and rectum you can massage.
Nipples:
Men and women alike find this an erogenous zone. You can use your fingers to roll them, flick them or stroke across. Some people don’t get aroused at all; so don’t be too disappointed if you don’t get a reaction. A man who enjoys getting his nipples sucked isn’t gay. We all start out the same in the womb and later some grow penises. We all have the same nerve endings to our nipples and some are more sensitive than others.
Incidentally, I have heard that women who have had breast implants sometimes lose sensation in their nipples due to nerve damage.
There are many more things you can do but these are the basics. If you aren’t having much luck with your current techniques read up on other things you can do, introduce vibrators or other toys. Don’t feel inadequate if she isn’t responding to your hands or mouth but does to a toy. Some women are harder to arouse than others and it’s not your fault. There are also the rare women who aren’t aroused by anything, poor souls.
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Weird Fetishes, Sexiest People of 2010 and Big Hearts
It's been a while since I've written about a fetish and while pondering which ones to highlight I read Uncoached and found he has a blog on weird fetishes. So here you go:
http://www.uncoached.com/2011/01/12/weird-sexual-fetishes/
Here are the 50 sexiest men of 2010 according to Glamour magazine.
http://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/celebrity/celebrity-galleries/2010/08/50-sexiest-men-2010-results
Here are the 99 sexiest women of 2010 according to AskMen magazine.
http://www.askmen.com/specials/top_99_women/
Why are there only 50 sexy men and 99 sexy women? I would add 49 more sexy men to even it out but that would take way too much of my time If you know of some who were overlooked please add them in the comments along with pictures.
I thought perhaps I was the only one tired of the stubble on men but this woman shares my disdain for the cactus look:
http://hubpages.com/hub/Fashion_Tips_for_Men_-_Designer_Stubble_Isnt_Always_Sexy
Either grow a beard or shave. If a guy showed up at my door looking like that for a date I would be offended thinking he didn't take the time or care enough to clean up. I can understand taking time off on the weekend or on vacation and don't expect men to shave all the time even though I shave my legs everyday. I know it's nice to take a break from the shaver now and then but when celebrities show up for a photo shoot that's just wrong. So tell me, do you like to snuggle up to a scratchy faced man?
Having too much love or having a big heart can scare some people away. We don’t think people care enough anymore but when they do it tends to make us uncomfortable. Why? Do we assume they must have ulterior motives? People can’t possibly be that caring. What do they really want? Do we feel they are too clingy and needy? In this “me” world we live in we don’t want to feel obligated to return the favor or affection. We are too busy working for, collecting and finding what we want. It takes too much effort to give.
I think we need more big hearted people in this world. Individuals that find satisfaction in giving and not so worried about receiving.
Roger Sanchez- Another Chance:
Lady Gaga- Alejandro:
http://www.uncoached.com/2011/01/12/weird-sexual-fetishes/
Here are the 50 sexiest men of 2010 according to Glamour magazine.
http://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/celebrity/celebrity-galleries/2010/08/50-sexiest-men-2010-results
Here are the 99 sexiest women of 2010 according to AskMen magazine.
http://www.askmen.com/specials/top_99_women/
Why are there only 50 sexy men and 99 sexy women? I would add 49 more sexy men to even it out but that would take way too much of my time If you know of some who were overlooked please add them in the comments along with pictures.
I thought perhaps I was the only one tired of the stubble on men but this woman shares my disdain for the cactus look:
http://hubpages.com/hub/Fashion_Tips_for_Men_-_Designer_Stubble_Isnt_Always_Sexy
Either grow a beard or shave. If a guy showed up at my door looking like that for a date I would be offended thinking he didn't take the time or care enough to clean up. I can understand taking time off on the weekend or on vacation and don't expect men to shave all the time even though I shave my legs everyday. I know it's nice to take a break from the shaver now and then but when celebrities show up for a photo shoot that's just wrong. So tell me, do you like to snuggle up to a scratchy faced man?
Having too much love or having a big heart can scare some people away. We don’t think people care enough anymore but when they do it tends to make us uncomfortable. Why? Do we assume they must have ulterior motives? People can’t possibly be that caring. What do they really want? Do we feel they are too clingy and needy? In this “me” world we live in we don’t want to feel obligated to return the favor or affection. We are too busy working for, collecting and finding what we want. It takes too much effort to give.
I think we need more big hearted people in this world. Individuals that find satisfaction in giving and not so worried about receiving.
Roger Sanchez- Another Chance:
Lady Gaga- Alejandro:
Saturday, January 8, 2011
Boob Products, Funny Indian Video and Pubic Hair Stencils
I know some of y'all are into backdoor fun but just be warned it isn't completely danger free as some of you would like to think. I know at least three gay men that have had to have rectal surgery and two said if they had it to do over again they would never have started. The third one is a wild child. What can I say?
Here’s an article on the dangers of anal sex.
http://tampa.creativeloafing.com/gyrobase/Content?oid=683722
A list of ten boob products you can buy and use around the house.
http://inventorspot.com/10_boob_products
Here’s a funny video of what a guy thinks this Indian woman is singing. For the record, I am not making fun of Indian people. I'm sure some of our words sound equally peculiar to them. With that said, here's something to make some of y'all laugh out loud.
Indian Nipple Song:
Andromimetophilia- A woman who is sexually aroused by impersonating a man or a woman who is sexually aroused by a woman who dresses as a man.
I’ve heard some men ask, “why not just choose a man if you like a woman who looks like one.” The answer is they don’t want male genitalia. They prefer the female body but like the look of a man. Unless you share this fetish it’s hard to understand. I don’t fully get it myself but have no problem with people having this paraphilia. At least no animals or minors are harmed.
People do all sorts of things to their pubic hair, from waxing it bare to leaving it full and wooly. If you are feeling really creative you can use stencils and shave a shape on your privates. Unless you are proficient in yoga it helps to engage the help of a trusted friend or lover. Here’s a site that gives instructions on creating that unique muff.
http://my-pubic-hair.blogspot.com/
Most of my readers are experienced guys but just in case a few shy young ones stop by here is a tutorial in cunnilingus or female oral sex.
http://www.cunnilingustutor.com/eat-pussy.shtml
Here’s a blog I enjoy reading sometimes by the woman that brought us The Toy Boy Diaries; self explanatory:
http://thetoyboydiaries.blogspot.com/2010/07/is-less-really-more-or-is-too-much-more.html
Divinyls- I Touch Myself:
DIVINYLS - I TOUCH MYSELF
Uploaded by noriko75. - Explore more music videos.
Here’s an article on the dangers of anal sex.
http://tampa.creativeloafing.com/gyrobase/Content?oid=683722
A list of ten boob products you can buy and use around the house.
http://inventorspot.com/10_boob_products
Here’s a funny video of what a guy thinks this Indian woman is singing. For the record, I am not making fun of Indian people. I'm sure some of our words sound equally peculiar to them. With that said, here's something to make some of y'all laugh out loud.
Indian Nipple Song:
Andromimetophilia- A woman who is sexually aroused by impersonating a man or a woman who is sexually aroused by a woman who dresses as a man.
I’ve heard some men ask, “why not just choose a man if you like a woman who looks like one.” The answer is they don’t want male genitalia. They prefer the female body but like the look of a man. Unless you share this fetish it’s hard to understand. I don’t fully get it myself but have no problem with people having this paraphilia. At least no animals or minors are harmed.
People do all sorts of things to their pubic hair, from waxing it bare to leaving it full and wooly. If you are feeling really creative you can use stencils and shave a shape on your privates. Unless you are proficient in yoga it helps to engage the help of a trusted friend or lover. Here’s a site that gives instructions on creating that unique muff.
http://my-pubic-hair.blogspot.com/
Most of my readers are experienced guys but just in case a few shy young ones stop by here is a tutorial in cunnilingus or female oral sex.
http://www.cunnilingustutor.com/eat-pussy.shtml
Here’s a blog I enjoy reading sometimes by the woman that brought us The Toy Boy Diaries; self explanatory:
http://thetoyboydiaries.blogspot.com/2010/07/is-less-really-more-or-is-too-much-more.html
Divinyls- I Touch Myself:
DIVINYLS - I TOUCH MYSELF
Uploaded by noriko75. - Explore more music videos.
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Transvestites, Jennifer Lopez & Snow Penises
Eddie Izzard is one of my favorite transvestites. They don’t turn me on in a, “I wanna do him” sorta way but they make me smile. What can I say?
Incidentally, men who like to wear women's clothing are not necessarily gay. I have known a few who were straight.
Jennifer Lopez still looks great. Don’t you think?
With all the snow and kids out of school you know what’s going to happen, right? Adolescent boys are going to build weenie sculptures. Well, it turns out it’s against the law in some states and some have been fined.
You know in the old, old, old days phallic sculptures were part of fertility celebrations and people danced around manly parts without a care in the world but now days it’s against the law to make snow penises or snowmen with genitalia. Personally, I think people are too serious. Maybe I’m weird but I think it is fun and they need to lighten up a bit. Gee. It’s just a willy.
http://archive.recordonline.com/archive/2005/12/14/sn.html
These inventive kids even made one ejaculate. My guess is Mentos and diet coke. When you have teenage boys you learn such things.
You know how to tell female snowmen from male snowmen? Snowballs.
And here’s your nekkid lady slide show for those of you who love to see them. You know who you are.
http://www.maxim.com/amg/GIRLS/Slideshows/Fireside%20Foxes
Leatherhands- Vertical Lines:
Incidentally, men who like to wear women's clothing are not necessarily gay. I have known a few who were straight.
Jennifer Lopez still looks great. Don’t you think?
With all the snow and kids out of school you know what’s going to happen, right? Adolescent boys are going to build weenie sculptures. Well, it turns out it’s against the law in some states and some have been fined.
You know in the old, old, old days phallic sculptures were part of fertility celebrations and people danced around manly parts without a care in the world but now days it’s against the law to make snow penises or snowmen with genitalia. Personally, I think people are too serious. Maybe I’m weird but I think it is fun and they need to lighten up a bit. Gee. It’s just a willy.
http://archive.recordonline.com/archive/2005/12/14/sn.html
These inventive kids even made one ejaculate. My guess is Mentos and diet coke. When you have teenage boys you learn such things.
You know how to tell female snowmen from male snowmen? Snowballs.
And here’s your nekkid lady slide show for those of you who love to see them. You know who you are.
http://www.maxim.com/amg/GIRLS/Slideshows/Fireside%20Foxes
Leatherhands- Vertical Lines:
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