Shy Men

Some women like a man who is sure of him self and fills a room with his presence. Those men have never appealed to me.

I’ve always preferred shy men. They are a challenge but well worth the effort if you take the time. I’ve had some women tell me they thought a man was cute but she didn’t know how to approach him.

What are the advantages of a bashful man? Since they are introvert with women they aren’t womanizers nor will they ever be. That shy smile will melt your heart. It is ten times sexier than the self assured grin from an arrogant man.

I’m not saying they will never wander or have an affair, remember if you took the time and thought him worth the effort there may be another woman who also sees him as a catch. There is also that weird feminine thing---a taken man is a sexy man.
Once you have him, take care of him and you should have no worries.

In the beginning it’s hard to tell if they are interested. You have to be quick to see them watching you because they look when you aren’t looking or they are masters at peripheral vision.

Just because they are shy doesn’t mean they are a push over or that they want an aggressive woman. On the contrary they need a woman that will make them feel masculine and bring out their full potential.

When you see a man like this it’s best to ease into conversation and not appear forceful. Some go for a woman like that but most do not.

If you see him in the cafeteria ask if you can sit at his table. Don’t sit too close. Choose a chair cattycorner to his seat. Introduce yourself. Make small talk about what you are eating. If he is interested he might look your way but even if he doesn’t at first don’t take that as a negative sign. Don’t talk too loud or too much.

When you leave thank him for letting you sit at his table. During the day if you pass him in the hall smile and say hello. Be sure and use his name and say it correctly.

The next day when you eat lunch walk slowly past his table. Don’t ask this time but say hello to him, smiling and making eye contact. Look around the room and back at his table. If he doesn’t invite you don’t sit down. Maybe sit at the next table if there is a seat available but still cattycorner to his seat. Watch out of the corner of your eye to see if he watches you. If he looks your way often he’s interested.

I should explain the importance of sitting cattycorner. Directly across or beside him is too close and personal. You don’t know him well enough to sit this close. If you do it tells him two things. You are too forward and you don’t respect his personal space. Sitting diagonally from him is close enough to talk to him, watch his peripheral vision and gives him a comfortable distance from you.

Try not to watch him too closely as tempting as it may be. Directly staring will make him feel uncomfortable.

Find excuses to go to his department or work area. Put out hints to other women you like him and are interested. Most work places are like a small town and word gets around like wild fire. Women love to gossip.

You may have to make subtle connections like this for quite a while before he starts to feel comfortable with you. Eventually, if he is interested he will start making the initiative to sit with you and talk to you.

This is just one example. I realize if you don’t work with a guy or go to school with him it will be a bit trickier to meet him but use some of these same techniques in your situation and it will work the same way.

You don’t want to come across as a loose or desperate woman. Be patient and take your time. Rushing is the worst thing you can do. If it is meant to be it will happen.

I love this song.