Faking Orgasms

Many women do it for various reasons. I never have but I orgasm easily and never needed to.

1) They aren’t really into what you are doing. Some women can’t orgasm no matter what you do so don’t take it personally.

2) She’s tired or has too much on her mind. For women an orgasm starts in her brain so if she’s thinking about the kid’s dentist appointment tomorrow or that project her boss is nagging her about it isn’t going to happen.

3) You’ve had frequent sex lately. Some women only have a number of orgasms in them and you’ve used her quota or she could be a bit sore but not telling you to save your feelings.

The trouble with women faking it is that if it happens consistently her guy won’t know what he is doing isn’t turning her on and he will just keep with his usual routine. For those normal women who are capable of reaching climax she is only making her boring love life worse.

Women are typically not very good at talking to men about what they want because they have been repressed. If she loves the man she may be afraid she’ll hurt his feelings. Men do have a vulnerable ego.

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So what do you do?

First of all, women need to stop pretending. When you aren’t having sex discuss things that you would like him to add to your lovemaking. If you can’t bring yourself to say it out loud write it down or send him an email. You can do it without sounding negative or making him feel bad. If you’ve been acting this whole time it will be a little hard to bring up because up until now he thought everything was copacetic. So don’t be surprised if the first words out of his mouth are, “I though you liked what I’ve been doing.”

In answer to that tell him, “Yes but variety is the spice of life.”

He may even ask you where you learned that or got the idea. Romance novels or erotica are good answers. Send him a link with suggestions. Some men just don’t think women are capable of coming up with new moves on our own, especially if you are supposed to be a “good girl”.

Not all women are created equal. I’m sure men have certainly noticed this. What brings us to orgasm is not the same. Some need penetration, some need more clitoral stimulation and some need both at the same time.

If you are with a girl who has to have clitoral stimulation to reach the big “O” and your favorite position is doggie, it isn’t going to happen. You are going to have to use a vibrator or your hand, reach around and play with the little man in the boat at the same time (which isn’t easy for most men) or do this position for a while and then turn her around and end with missionary or other front-to-front position. If you are a guy who is intimidated by toys or her making her own happy ending with her hands while you are doing the deed, then I suggest ending with a frontal entry.

Some women can only orgasm if her G spot is hit and these girls usually prefer doggie or other rear entry positions.

Here is an article giving you guys hints on how to tell if she is faking it but I will tell you that you can’t go by all of these. Depending on the woman some of these aren’t good indicators.

http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa_150/152_love_secrets.html

If a woman has good vaginal muscle control we can tighten around a man’s penis even if we aren't having an orgasm. Some of us don’t sweat and some of us already have dilated pupils. The rapid heartbeat is a good indicator but if she’s been doing a good imitation of Meg Ryan she may have worked herself up to a good cardiovascular work out without climaxing.

In the long run, it doesn’t really matter anyway. If the two of you are happy with how things are now and she isn’t complaining then you are probably doing okay. If she is putting you off more and more frequently then you should talk to her about what turns her on and see if you can change up your routine a bit.

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